This idea of celebrating them is a pretty recent shift. Let’s be honest it took me awhile to be neutral about them. To not freak out every time I missed (my idea of) perfection.
In school I was always avoiding mistakes because I wanted A’s and if you make too many mistakes you simply cannot get an A.
In church, making mistakes was called “sin” and we all know where that will get you!
But I discovered in life, “mistakes” are golden nuggets.
If we rewind back about 34 years you’ll see the hang up with mistakes was tangled in how I got here. You see my parents were young and free teenagers when I was conceived. They were from a small town of about a thousand people and well I always saw my beginning as a mistake. Something that should have not happened.
I actually believed that I was a mistake.
It’s so easy for me to write that now and not feel any twinge of sadness because I know it’s simply not true. The truth is I was quite excited about being here and living in my body. I was thrilled that my new parents were young and free. I knew they were the right people for me.
Could you imagine if I was born into a family in Connecticut where my conception was planned for years in advance and where people walk around in green polos with the collars popped and pink cardigan sweaters draped over their shoulders? I certainly would have been required to attend Yale and marry an attorney and live miserably ever after in suburbia (I think I just threw up a little in my mouth).
Now that I’m not in school or church and am just living the exact life I want, I’m free to make mistakes.
I know what you’re thinking…you were free to do that BEFORE. Yes, but I didn’t know that. I didn’t know I could make life my lab and blow the whole thing up if I wanted to, just to see what it was like!
Everything is an experiment for me now.
And since I started this little experiment of making everything an experiment I see a pattern forming. A couple years ago Derek and I decided to do an experiment in our business. We had up until then been doing internet marketing work for other internet marketers and network marketers but then we decided to see if brick and mortar small business owners were open to what we had to offer. Every client was an experiment (that sounds horrible, but it’s true). We had to see if their particular business could benefit from our skill set. We experimented with packages and pricing. We played around with everything just to see how it would work.
Our current business, the one that pays all the bills was a complete experiment and you guessed it, it worked out beautifully!
This website you’re on right now is an experiment. I thought I’d write for myself and see if there was anyone who could relate to it. I thought would share my life and see if there were other people who were willing to share theirs. I thought I’d make my journey of self a public one and see if anyone else was on the journey too.
You see if we have to have everything lined out perfectly before we act, we’ll never get anywhere. And more importantly we miss out on the beauty of observing the process.
Are you insisting on “perfection” or are you ready to experiment?
Hungry for More, A. Monika
p.s. If there are typos, spelling or grammar mistakes in this post don’t worry about. Those are the kinds of things I’ve worried about for FAR too long. It’s time to just get it out and who cares if it’s not perfect, it’s from the heart!